Have you ever stopped to think about how wild it is that commenting on other people’s bodies is common and even expected in our society?
We are conditioned to think about, talk about and even compare our bodies to each other. That is bonkers to me.
Common makes it prevalent, it doesn’t make it right or okay.
Unfortunately when we’re pregnant or postpartum there seems to be a heightened expectation that our bodies are open fodder for comment.
Just because someone is carrying a human doesn’t mean it’s okay to make comments about her body, we don’t know how she is experiencing her pregnancy or what her relationship with her body is.
The same goes for a woman who has had a baby, same goes for a young child, same goes for an older woman, same goes for a teenager – we have no idea what her relationship with her body is, what her lived experience is or the impact our comments may have.
When did we ever get to a point that we subconsciously (hopefully in most cases) thought it was okay to have an opinion or a say about someone else’s body? When did we get taught that it was any of our business?
This isn’t about large, small, tall or short bodies – this is about ALL bodies.
The good thing is, we are wildly amazing and able to unlearn things that aren’t helpful and I don’t believe this is helpful for anyone.
The minute we talk about bodies like objects and disassociate them from the beautiful humans living inside them is the minute that we lose a precious connection with the magic someone carries within them. Plus it can leave us and them feeling pretty crap.
We can do better. Xx
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